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Author Archives: bonnevivantelife
The Burden of Choice
I’m 45 years old, and I am both ecstatic and dismayed that I have one more student loan payment left. I received my graduate degree in 1997. It’s been a while. It also took me a while to understand why … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Mindfulness, Parenting
Tagged Chinese, choices, mistakes, parenting, tribe, values
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A Box Full of Darkness
“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” -Mary Oliver, The Uses of Sorrow Mary Oliver, a poet who once said poetry mustn’t be fancy, … Continue reading
Posted in Mindfulness, Relationships
Tagged divorce, gratitude, lovingkindness, Mary Oliver, Uses of Sorrow
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When Rice is Love
Twenty four years ago, my parents gave me an old 3-cup rice cooker, National brand. It was rusty on the outside, but it did the job. They loaded me up with used furniture, an Ikea piece or two, mismatched kitchenware, … Continue reading
Posted in Mindfulness, Parenting
Tagged Asian parenting, Chinese, National rice cooker, rice cooker
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Active Shooter Lockdown at my Children’s Schools: My Response
“Please talk with your children about what happened and reassure them that there are strategies in place both at home and school to ensure safety.” — Part of the note from the school principal after an active shooter lockdown. (Note: … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment
Tagged active shooter, gun control, school lockdown, school shooting
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Getting Arrested Changed My Life
My daughter is deeply disappointed in me. She does not think it’s fitting to have any criminal record. She understands why I’ve recently turned to a scofflaw life, but she does not approve. It has taken almost 45 years to … Continue reading
Where are you from?
“North Jersey, right outside of NYC,” I’d always reply. I know what people mean when they ask me. Inevitably, they always follow up with “No, I mean where are you REALLY from?” At which point I’d say, “Oh, right. I … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Relationships
Tagged #crazyrichasians, Chinese, Crazy Rich Asians, racial bias, racial stereotypes, racism, self identity
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#winning at What Cost?
I’ve learned to listen to my gut. So when I first started hearing students and teachers describe a certain coach with certain words, it struck me as interesting, and I tucked it away. Fast forward to a year later, and … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Parenting
Tagged abusive sports culture, coaching, McNair, toxic sports culture, University of Maryland
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Bearable Lightness of Being
I never quite know who I’m coming home to. There are two human beings in middle school who have the keys to the house and full run of the refrigerator. But I don’t know who I’ll encounter when I … Continue reading
Be Your Hero
When people think of relationships in February, they usually think about intimate relationships–their spouse, significant other, ex-lover. Too often, people don’t examine the relationship you have with yourself. It’s precisely this relationship you have with yourself that dictates and frames … Continue reading
When Your Heart Breaks Open
I tell you this to break your heart, by which I mean only that it break open and never close again to the rest of the world. -Mary Oliver There was a moment recently whereupon my heart broke wide open. … Continue reading
Posted in Dating, Meditation, Mindfulness, Relationships, spirituality
Tagged broken heart, grace, love, spiritual awakening, spiritual journey
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