Author Archives: bonnevivantelife

Be Your Hero

Posted on February 3, 2018 by bonnevivantelife

When people think of relationships in February, they usually think about intimate relationships–their spouse, significant other, ex-lover. Too often, people don’t examine the relationship you have with yourself. It’s precisely this relationship you have with yourself that dictates and frames … Continue reading →

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When Your Heart Breaks Open

Posted on December 22, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I tell you this to break your heart, by which I mean only that it break open and never close again to the rest of the world. -Mary Oliver There was a moment recently whereupon my heart broke wide open. … Continue reading →

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Grace in the Face of Betrayal

Posted on December 20, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

We’ve all felt betrayed or duped by people. We’ve all been hurt by people. We’ve all been disappointed by people we believed in, by people we trusted, by people we cared about. I’ve believed in people I should not have. … Continue reading →

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Life Lessons from Snow

Posted on December 10, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I am not a professional writer because I can’t write to assignment. Yet I didn’t argue with my friend when he gently told me to go for a walk in the snow, look for something special or inspiring or beautiful, … Continue reading →

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Grace: Always the Next Right Thing

Posted on November 27, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I’m processing the end of a relationship, and some moments are better than others. It didn’t work out, but he’s a kind, gentle soul full of grace. That’s what attracted me to him the most. Just because it didn’t work … Continue reading →

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Gratitude for When Darkness Falls

Posted on November 25, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I lay here listening to the world wake up slowly. Cars start driving down the road on the way to work. Footsteps shuffle to the bathroom. I can almost hear the black of night turn to grey as light slowly … Continue reading →

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How to Get Unstuck

Posted on November 22, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

There is a theory that trauma lives in the body, that our memories are experienced through our senses, and stored in our bodies (Bessel van der Kolk). I believe it’s not just traumas, but all events. Just like you can … Continue reading →

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Peace: Simple, Yet Hard

Posted on November 14, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

When I was much younger, I sought out meditation practice in the hopes of quieting my mind enough to give me inner peace. Back then, I thought peace was a quiet destination. A calm bliss. I thought it would relieve … Continue reading →

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Why I Must Tell My Children I Was Raped

Posted on November 3, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

A friend asked the other day if there’s anyone left in Hollywood, referencing the daily news stories of women sharing their stories of being sexually assaulted by powerful men. Hollywood? This isn’t confined to the entertainment industry. I’m conflicted about … Continue reading →

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Ninja Princess

Posted on October 27, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I hold great disdain for the princess culture. The nauseating pink and batting eyelashes and the requirement of being saved by someone. There’s something helpless and vapid and useless about these personalities that are heavily marketed towards young girls. Yet … Continue reading →

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