Author Archives: bonnevivantelife

Sitting, Waiting, Wishing

I never had any intention of being a parent, for good reasons. One of which is that it is very hard. I want to also point out that it is very, very hard. A third, yet related reason is that … Continue reading

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Harvey and a Clockmaker

  My paternal grandmother died almost 15 years ago. I accompanied my father back down to Texas to gather her belongings, bury her, and settle her estate. I was born there, but had not been back since I was a … Continue reading

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The Natural Order of Things

I tell myself this is the natural order of things. This is the way it should be. Knowing this doesn’t make it any easier. Your brain understands this. Your heart protests. You’re born into this world with unshakable tenets. Such … Continue reading

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“Music is What Feelings Sound Like”

Reason #79 why I love my band: Their sense of humor–not everyone would agree to referencing blood sausage in their band name. This motley crew who gather weekly with me are my Church. Which is strange because one is Jewish, … Continue reading

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Cosmic Perspective

Perspective is everything. “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” I try to remember perspective and gratitudes, and how important both are for my sanity, ability for acceptance, and sense of peace. It’s not … Continue reading

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Walking with Bad Decisions

Recently I received a note letting me know My Child had made a Bad Decision. It took my breath away. Intellectually, we know our children are human, and will make Bad Decisions. We know we each made our fair share … Continue reading

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The Truth About Snowflakes

Being called a “snowflake” these days is supposed to be a derogatory term, insinuating someone is so delicate they get offended too easily. Being a “snowflake” is supposed to mean someone feels so special and unique they are entitled to … Continue reading

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Grace in a Tree

Turns out that you can invite grace into your life, into your home, but grace doesn’t automatically make your life or home calmer or better or more joyful. Continue reading

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How to Heal Our Country

It has been 12 days since the election. I have been sitting with it all, not sure what to say, think, write. Everyone has something to say. It’s hard for me to take it all in, to sit and listen … Continue reading

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And Then There Was a Teen

  Dear my sweetest son, I’ll wake tomorrow with a teenager in my home. I’ve seen this day coming for a while now. I’ve seen you grow taller; taller than your friends, taller than your grandmother, then taller than me. … Continue reading

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