Category Archives: Dating

Delete, I’d Hit That

Posted on September 18, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

Well, that didn’t last long. In my decision to actively date again, I created a profile on another online dating site. It’s been less than a week and I deleted it already. I just could not take it anymore. At … Continue reading →

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Hawaii

Posted on September 17, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

Love is like Hawaii. Without the pineapples and shaved ice with red beans and Spam sushi. Without the luaus and sunsets and jet lag. Otherwise, they’re very similar, and coconut bras may or may not play a part in both … Continue reading →

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How Can You Mend a Broken Heart

Posted on August 9, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

How do you heal a broken heart, a friend ponders painfully. First, one must let go of the beloved one. Sounds simple, but what does that mean really? Well, the obvious things are you stop seeing the person. You stop … Continue reading →

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Beggars Can’t Be Choosers

Posted on August 7, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

“Please. Don’t do this. Don’t go,” I said softly. No, I begged softly. I tried not to beg loudly because that’s unbecoming. But my pleas were in fact begging. Because I knew if he walked out that door that night, … Continue reading →

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My Sangha of True Love

Posted on July 21, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

I’ve deleted one of my online dating site profiles. Another one I’ll leave up simply because I paid a discounted price for an entire 6 months from the start because I’m cheap, but I won’t really be participating in this … Continue reading →

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Dating Really Is a Headache

Posted on July 2, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

You may have noticed I have not written much of late. If you haven’t noticed, I won’t be offended. A little sad, but I understand. I haven’t written because I can’t. My head injury has flared up again such that … Continue reading →

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The One Who Got Away

Posted on June 9, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

My friend told me a story about a man she dated a handful of times, maybe two handsful of times, years and years ago. He abruptly told her he didn’t think it would work out. Some moments she thinks he … Continue reading →

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Saving Love, Saving Yourself

Posted on May 29, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

You cannot save people. You can only love them. Anaïs Nin And sometimes that means you must love them from afar. I have a friend who had difficulty accepting that her now-ex-boyfriend continued to make life decisions that were not … Continue reading →

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The Bleeding Heart Party

Posted on May 22, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

I am ending today’s pity party. We may have one later tonight, or tomorrow, or this long weekend at the beach. But for now, it’s over. Everyone go home. This time my pity party was over a fun date. I’d … Continue reading →

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My Kind of Guy

Posted on May 15, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

Each time I dip a toe in the dating pool, I learn more about what I want, and don’t want. I want what most people want–someone I find interesting and funny and smart and kind. I’ve realized there are simply … Continue reading →

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