Category Archives: Mindfulness

How to Get Unstuck

Posted on November 22, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

There is a theory that trauma lives in the body, that our memories are experienced through our senses, and stored in our bodies (Bessel van der Kolk). I believe it’s not just traumas, but all events. Just like you can … Continue reading →

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Peace: Simple, Yet Hard

Posted on November 14, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

When I was much younger, I sought out meditation practice in the hopes of quieting my mind enough to give me inner peace. Back then, I thought peace was a quiet destination. A calm bliss. I thought it would relieve … Continue reading →

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Sitting, Waiting, Wishing

Posted on October 10, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I never had any intention of being a parent, for good reasons. One of which is that it is very hard. I want to also point out that it is very, very hard. A third, yet related reason is that … Continue reading →

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Harvey and a Clockmaker

Posted on August 30, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

  My paternal grandmother died almost 15 years ago. I accompanied my father back down to Texas to gather her belongings, bury her, and settle her estate. I was born there, but had not been back since I was a … Continue reading →

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“Music is What Feelings Sound Like”

Posted on May 16, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

Reason #79 why I love my band: Their sense of humor–not everyone would agree to referencing blood sausage in their band name. This motley crew who gather weekly with me are my Church. Which is strange because one is Jewish, … Continue reading →

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Cosmic Perspective

Posted on April 27, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

Perspective is everything. “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” I try to remember perspective and gratitudes, and how important both are for my sanity, ability for acceptance, and sense of peace. It’s not … Continue reading →

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Walking with Bad Decisions

Posted on February 20, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

Recently I received a note letting me know My Child had made a Bad Decision. It took my breath away. Intellectually, we know our children are human, and will make Bad Decisions. We know we each made our fair share … Continue reading →

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Grace in a Tree

Posted on January 4, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

Turns out that you can invite grace into your life, into your home, but grace doesn’t automatically make your life or home calmer or better or more joyful. Continue reading →

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How to Heal Our Country

Posted on November 20, 2016 by bonnevivantelife

It has been 12 days since the election. I have been sitting with it all, not sure what to say, think, write. Everyone has something to say. It’s hard for me to take it all in, to sit and listen … Continue reading →

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And Then There Was a Teen

Posted on November 17, 2016 by bonnevivantelife

  Dear my sweetest son, I’ll wake tomorrow with a teenager in my home. I’ve seen this day coming for a while now. I’ve seen you grow taller; taller than your friends, taller than your grandmother, then taller than me. … Continue reading →

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