Category Archives: Parenting

Roots and Wings

Posted on August 28, 2021 by bonnevivantelife

The pile in the living room is getting larger. The mini fridge. The laundry bag. The desk lamp. The XL twin sheets (what in the fresh hell is this??) The box of snacks and ramen. The cleaning supplies (who are … Continue reading →

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The Burden of Choice

Posted on May 20, 2019 by bonnevivantelife

I’m 45 years old, and I am both ecstatic and dismayed that I have one more student loan payment left. I received my graduate degree in 1997. It’s been a while. It also took me a while to understand why … Continue reading →

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When Rice is Love

Posted on October 28, 2018 by bonnevivantelife

Twenty four years ago, my parents gave me an old 3-cup rice cooker, National brand. It was rusty on the outside, but it did the job. They loaded me up with used furniture, an Ikea piece or two, mismatched kitchenware, … Continue reading →

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#winning at What Cost?

Posted on August 23, 2018 by bonnevivantelife

I’ve learned to listen to my gut. So when I first started hearing students and teachers describe a certain coach with certain words, it struck me as interesting, and I tucked it away. Fast forward to a year later, and … Continue reading →

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Bearable Lightness of Being

Posted on June 7, 2018 by bonnevivantelife

  I never quite know who I’m coming home to. There are two human beings in middle school who have the keys to the house and full run of the refrigerator. But I don’t know who I’ll encounter when I … Continue reading →

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Why I Must Tell My Children I Was Raped

Posted on November 3, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

A friend asked the other day if there’s anyone left in Hollywood, referencing the daily news stories of women sharing their stories of being sexually assaulted by powerful men. Hollywood? This isn’t confined to the entertainment industry. I’m conflicted about … Continue reading →

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Ninja Princess

Posted on October 27, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I hold great disdain for the princess culture. The nauseating pink and batting eyelashes and the requirement of being saved by someone. There’s something helpless and vapid and useless about these personalities that are heavily marketed towards young girls. Yet … Continue reading →

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Sitting, Waiting, Wishing

Posted on October 10, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I never had any intention of being a parent, for good reasons. One of which is that it is very hard. I want to also point out that it is very, very hard. A third, yet related reason is that … Continue reading →

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The Natural Order of Things

Posted on July 18, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I tell myself this is the natural order of things. This is the way it should be. Knowing this doesn’t make it any easier. Your brain understands this. Your heart protests. You’re born into this world with unshakable tenets. Such … Continue reading →

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Walking with Bad Decisions

Posted on February 20, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

Recently I received a note letting me know My Child had made a Bad Decision. It took my breath away. Intellectually, we know our children are human, and will make Bad Decisions. We know we each made our fair share … Continue reading →

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