Tag Archives: divorce

A Box Full of Darkness

Posted on January 18, 2019 by bonnevivantelife

“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” -Mary Oliver, The Uses of Sorrow Mary Oliver, a poet who once said poetry mustn’t be fancy, … Continue reading →

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The Secret to a Successful Relationship

Posted on March 20, 2016 by bonnevivantelife

My friends finally conceded it is difficult to date me. I’m a little complex, a bit of an overthinker, and not very conventional. I’m an acquired taste. My friends declared I needed to date my equal, and I shouldn’t waste … Continue reading →

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The Truth of Divorce

Posted on May 9, 2015 by bonnevivantelife

“Why did you and Daddy get divorced?” the Boy asked me about a month ago. Good question, I said. I told him I don’t know how to answer that right now in a way he can understand. But that I’d … Continue reading →

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Lessons from Marriage & Divorce

Posted on November 24, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

Several different couples I’m friends with are uncoupling right now. They’re at the very beginning of the separation process. It’s got me thinking. Because when I look in their eyes, when I hear their voices, I recognize the fear and … Continue reading →

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Marriage Salad

Posted on August 5, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

I was the last of my friends to get married, and the first of my friends to get divorced. I do tend to do things ass-backwards. So I don’t know how much stock anyone wants to put into my advice … Continue reading →

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Shadow of Myself

Posted on July 10, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

Recently, several people have asked what happened in my marriage, why I got divorced. People ask me this like they’re asking me why I chose that particular Keurig model or why I no longer use Milton as my hairstylist. There … Continue reading →

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Fool Me Once…

Posted on April 1, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

What was the best prank you ever pulled off for April Fool’s Day? I got married. In Vegas. In a free standing chapel on the strip. You know, because I’m real classy like that. To be fair, it wasn’t a … Continue reading →

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What’s in a Name?

Posted on July 17, 2013 by bonnevivantelife

I want my name back. I didn’t lose it. Apparently I inadvertently gave it away. I recently found out my ex-husband is using my last name in the name of his business. He set up this entity near the end … Continue reading →

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Some Assembly Required

Posted on March 18, 2013 by bonnevivantelife

A sure sign of success of a divorced woman: Assembling not one, but TWO shelving systems. In under an hour. All by myself. Without breaking any pieces. And not one, but BOTH of them are assembled CORRECTLY. And not to … Continue reading →

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Flawed & Fabulous

Posted on November 5, 2012 by bonnevivantelife

So I’ve followed this fabulous woman for a while now–through her blog, not in a stalking sort of way. I find her authenticity and vulnerability so refreshing, so genuine. And she makes me laugh so hard I always pee a … Continue reading →

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