Tag Archives: grief

Gratitude for When Darkness Falls

Posted on November 25, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I lay here listening to the world wake up slowly. Cars start driving down the road on the way to work. Footsteps shuffle to the bathroom. I can almost hear the black of night turn to grey as light slowly … Continue reading →

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Harvey and a Clockmaker

Posted on August 30, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

  My paternal grandmother died almost 15 years ago. I accompanied my father back down to Texas to gather her belongings, bury her, and settle her estate. I was born there, but had not been back since I was a … Continue reading →

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The Natural Order of Things

Posted on July 18, 2017 by bonnevivantelife

I tell myself this is the natural order of things. This is the way it should be. Knowing this doesn’t make it any easier. Your brain understands this. Your heart protests. You’re born into this world with unshakable tenets. Such … Continue reading →

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Saying Good-Bye

Posted on November 19, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

“I don’t know how to say good-bye.” La Chica writes this in an important note to me about her feelings of her good friends moving away. I don’t blame her. No one knows how to say good-bye. It’s hard and … Continue reading →

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Today Is The Day

Posted on December 5, 2013 by bonnevivantelife

By now everyone knows I throw a pretty damned good pity party. (I also throw really good real parties too, so check back with me another time.) It didn’t start off as a pity party, but you know what happens … Continue reading →

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On Loss and Grief

Posted on November 27, 2013 by bonnevivantelife

Grief, my new constant companion, has moved in. I thought I’d take a good look at him since we’re spending so much time together now. And I’ve realized a few things. Grief is not sadness. I get sad when I … Continue reading →

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Just Show Up

Posted on November 26, 2013 by bonnevivantelife

A little over a year ago I decided I wanted to start dating again after a long hiatus, or a sabbatical if you will–because a sabbatical is rest from work. And dating is hard work. When I mentioned this to … Continue reading →

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